Eden's Easter Thank You

My sister and her family sent Eden a beautiful dress and an Elmo movie for Easter. Kendall came up with the creative idea of making a short thank you video for them. It thought it was too cute not to share. Here you go!

We're back!

For those of you who used to follow this blog regularly, you know that we've been sort of off the grid for a while now. We experimented with making this a private blog, but it sort of ends up not being worth the time of keeping a blog if it's going to be private. That is, we had to invite specific people to subscribe to the blog, and then those people had to sign up to read it. As you might expect, this ends up being just a bit too much hurdle-jumping to have a broad, regular readership.

So we debated quitting the blog altogether, but as I've thought more about it, I've kind of decided that we've put a lot of time into it and I'd rather not just abandon it. We also had a change in our family about a month ago that I thought merited sharing with our friends and family who might not already know. We lost our dog, Henry.

PetSmart Puppy School

What a cute pup!

Happy First Birthday, Henry!

Welcome home, Eden!

Henry was a wonderful pet. He was great with Eden, not a mean bone in his body. He loved to play and insisted on being a part of everything the family was doing. He was a great traveler, and he made our home warmer for the time he was in it.

Lil' buddies

Merry Christmas! 2011

Unfortunately, Henry also loved to run, and one day he got out of the yard and got hit by a car. It was nobody's fault. It was just one of those things. We all miss him, and things haven't been the same around the house, but we're moving on.

In other news, Eden is growing and developing in leaps and bounds every day. That's another reason I thought it would be worth starting the blog back up again. Now that we live in North Carolina, we don't get to see the Florida folks as much as we used to, so I thought bringing the blog back would be a good way to stay connected with everyone there.

A new bike for Christmas! 2011

Eden with MeMe & Grandpa

Eden & Grandma

Little Elf

We've been making good use of Skype, so that's been a nice convenience of modern technology. Although we'd love to be with everyone in person, video calls are a nice alternative.

Happy 2nd Birthday Eden!

Eat cake!

A "Barney" birthday party!

Kendall and I are both plugging along at work. Kendall went on a trip to Kalamazoo, Michigan, not too long ago. She said it went pretty well, but I think she's also glad we ended up somewhere still in the South. Spring break started for me this week, which really means that I have some time when I don't have class so I can get some other work done.

We've also enjoyed being able to spend some time with my cousin Cody and his family. They came over to Wilmington from Ft. Bragg a few weeks ago and we had a very nice time with them. This was the second time we've seen them since moving here, and we've enjoyed those opportunities. We have some other folks we'd like to try to connect with soon, too - my cousin Travis and his family, my friend Jason in Greensboro, my cousin Chuck around Charlotte, and I'd like to make it up to West Virginia for the Vest family reunion one of these Fourths of July.

Chef Eden!

Ready to go!

Anyway, that's the latest in a nutshell. Hopefully, I'll be able to post more frequently now that we've got the blog up and running again. We hope you are all doing well.

That's the news for now. We'll keep you posted.

Eden's first day at the beach

Greetings from North Carolina

I hardly know where to start. An apology? Some sweeping statement about the nature of life's big transitions? A knock-knock joke? OK.

Knock-knock.

Who's there?

The Neelys.

The Neelys who?

Oh my, it has been a long time since our last blog post.

Wah, wah, wah ...

4th of July at the Dethier's House

Eden- 17 months

Enjoying a swim at MeMe & Grandpa's

When we last left you, we were counting down the weeks and months until our move to North Carolina. Well, those months have come and gone and we are finally settled in, mostly, to our new home, no thanks to Hurricane Irene.

We made it through the storm just fine. We were without power for a whole 45 minutes one night and had a lot of wind and rain, but otherwise the storm was fairly uneventful for us.

Kendall finished up her job at Shands last month. All of her friends and coworkers there gave her a very warm sendoff. The month of August was a VERY busy and tiring month for us.

Some photos of our little cheerleader at UF

After flying home from my orientation here at UNCW the first few days of last month, Kendall and I got straight to work packing up our apartment. Actually, she somehow managed to get quite a bit done while I was gone.

That following weekend we went down to Tampa for one last get-together with our family. We had a great time, even though it was tough knowing that we'd be moving farther than we'd ever been from family before. We were really grateful everyone was able to make it out.

That next week, we rented a moving truck, packed up our storage unit, made our way back to Gainesville with Kendall's parents, put the apartment in the truck, struck out for Wilmington, arrived in NC and unloaded the truck, and started putting the house together.

Everything is pretty much done at this point, still just a few things that need to be hung on walls and what not.

Discovering a new playground by our house in NC

So far my job is going very well. My colleagues are great, and I like the students, too. I'm very busy with teaching new classes, trying to get research out the door and just getting a feel for the university. But I'm managing to keep my head above water.

Kendall also is very busy. She's been staying at home with Eden, who continues to grow every day in her levels of adorableness and stinkerness. She's giving a lot more hugs and kisses, especially to Henry, and she may hold the record for how many times one person can say "no" in a single day. Her vocabulary is also growing, and we are learning all her new words right along with her.

Eden's new "sand & water table"

Kendall also manages to get more done in Eden's nap times than most people do all day. This week she has managed to repaint our bedroom, polish the floors, manage correspondence with the rental company and repair man (our iced used to smell like old sweaty gym socks), do multiple loads of laundry, shop for new dishes, and reconceptualize fractals and string theory. All this while also meeting some moms in the neighborhood, taking Eden to the pool, and otherwise keeping our toddler entertained.

Eden & Henry enjoying the new backyard

We've started going to a church up here called Port City Community Church. It's very similar to the one in Tampa where Kendall and I met. We like it pretty well so far, so maybe we won't have to spend months on end "shopping" for a home church. We'll see. God's got a place and a plan for all of us. We'll walk it out one day at a time.

At the park down the street

Anyway, that's the news for now. We'll keep you posted.

Slide Time

Here's a short video clip from a couple of weeks ago.

A Parent's Love

EDITORS' NOTE: For the most part Jeff does the writing, and Kendall does the design work. Jeff just wanted to make sure you all knew that he is still a red-blooded American male.

When I look at my daughter, I realize why God loves me. Because He just does. That's it. That's the way it works, just like there's nothing that Eden does to make me love her. I just do. She's my daughter, and I can't help but love her.

While it melts my heart when she gives me a hug or a kiss, or when she dances with unreserved, uninhibited joy, that's not why I love her. I'm not checking boxes or keeping count of how many times she's doing sweet things. I'm her dad, and I'd do anything for her because I love her.

And these days it's a good thing Kendall and I aren't keeping a balance sheet of sweet and ornery. Eden has definitely discovered that natural-born ability to make everything more difficult than it has to be. I know those of you out there with a toddler, or who have had a toddler, or who have ever spent any time with a toddler are nodding your head right now.

Seriously, the neighbors must think we are torturing the child. If we try to put Eden's shoes on - SCRRRREEEEAAAMMM!!! Try to take her shoes off - SCCRRRREEEEAAAMMM!!! ! Put her in her stroller - SCRRRREEEEAAAMMM!!! Take her out of her stroller - SCCRRRREEEAAAMMM!!! Try to give her milk - SCCRRRREEEAAAMMM!!! Try to give her juice - SCC ... "Ju!"

But it's not just the bone-rattling scream that goes into her tantrums; she gets her whole back arched into it with her head thrown over to one side. If we put her down, that's when the rolling on the floor comes in. Sometimes she'll mix it up a little and just sit motionless except for her powerful lungs pumping out those prolonged cries of protest that must be violating our noise ordinances.

Of course, there are also plenty of those precious moments when she is sweet and loving. Sometimes those moments oscillate with the tantrums in intervals of about every five seconds.

Still, those times when she brings me a book and crawls up in my lap with her blankie, or spontaneously grabs Kendall's face with both hands and plants a big kiss right on her mouth, that's the good stuff. And it gives me a glimpse into how much it must delight God when we just want to spend some time with Him.

The last few weeks have been a wonderful chance to remember the beauty of a parent's love as we celebrated Easter and Mother's Day. And as we all know, there's no better way to celebrate the love our heavenly Father showed through the death and resurrection of his Son than by dipping unfertilized female reproductive poultry cells into dye.

I'm joking, of course. It was a lot of fun helping Eden color Easter eggs for the first time at my parents' house. She got the hang of it, sort of. She was really good at getting the eggs into the dye. She was also really good at getting the dye into her mouth, all down her chest, and all over the counter. But the eggs turned out nice, and Grandma was able to wash all the dye off the baby. A good time was had by all.

And what do you do with Easter eggs? You hide them from your trusting toddler, delight in watching her comb the yard for them, and then once she's finally found them, you hide them again. Muahahaha!!! Again, only kidding.

In truth, Eden LOVED hunting Easter eggs. She was on a mission out there! She had such a look of serious determination. She got double the fun, too, as she hunted eggs at both grandparents' Easter weekend.

For Mother's Day we went back down to Tampa. We stayed Friday and Saturday night with Kendall's parents. Saturday afternoon, we went to my friend Brenda's daughter's first birthday party. It was nice to see friends I hadn't seen in a while. It's crazy to see folks you knew when you were single and carefree and how everybody is settled with kids now.

Sunday we went to my sister's house and had a fun time with my side of the family. Kendall and I were dominating at corn hole (also known as corn toss) until my sister's father-in-law, Jim, got out there. I think he must play in a league or something. He was sinking three-pointers left and right!

Kendall got a few charms for her Pandora bracelet for Mother's Day. It is starting to fill in nicely it seems. I don't know what I'm going to do when it's full. She's kind of made gift buying easy on me for the last couple of years with that bracelet. If I'm stumped for ideas, I know I can always get her a new charm!

All is well on other fronts. I recently walked in graduation for my Ph.D. I was blessed that my parents, sister, niece and Kendall's parents came up to join Kendall, Eden and me for the ceremony. I technically still have a few loose ends to tie up before UF awards my degree, but I successfully defended my dissertation last month, so the rest is pretty much formalities. I couldn't have done it without the support of Kendall and all my family.

We continue to prepare for our move to North Carolina. I'm teaching the first part of the summer here in Florida, then I'll stay home with Eden in July. Kendall will be working through the first few days in August. We'll be taking a trip up to Wilmington soon to look for a house. God has ordered our steps to bring us to this point. I know he'll keep it doing it. He loves His kids.

That's the news for now. We'll keep you posted.

Along Came Potty

It is with great enthusiasm that I sit down to write this blog post. We recently experienced a very monumental milestone in the Neely household.

It has been a long time coming, and I never really thought I'd see the day when it happened, but it's finally arrived. I know this is only the beginning and there's a lot of hard work still to come, but words fail to describe the sense of accomplishment and success one experiences at times like these.

That's right ... (drrrrrrrrrrrruuuuuuuummmmmmm rooooooooooolllllllll)

Eden went pee-pee in the potty!!!

Not once but over five times already!

Oh yeah, and I passed my dissertation defense.

Anyway, we learned a few weeks ago that they started introducing Eden to the potty at daycare, so Kendall and I decided it was time to purchase a little person's pot for the house, too.

We went to Target to pick one out, and I must say that for such a significant life decision as selecting the first throne of your first-born child, it was not nearly as nerve-racking as I expected.

They had a reasonable selection of three or four comparable waste receptacles, some with a few more bells and whistles than the others. So we opted for a midline model and, beaming with pride and trepidation from the checkout counter to the doorstep, brought it home.

When we got our caca-catcher inside, we thought the best thing to do initially was to just let her explore the new fixture. There will be plenty of time for formal lessons later, we thought, but for now let's just let her get used to it.

Well, get used to it she did. It only took one time of asking, "Eden, do you want to sit on the potty?" and she was right on it. Now with this only being our orientation evening, we just let her sit on it fully clothed. This, of course, was followed by a great deal of clapping, smiling and shouts of exuberant approval.

However, the next day when Kendall was changing Eden's diaper, she put the bare-butt baby on the floor and asked her again if she wanted to sit on the potty. Our little girl plopped herself right down on that tiny toilet and clapped and clapped (ahem ... that's clapped with a "cl"). When she stood up, Kendall looked inside the mini-thunder-mug and, sure enough, liquid gold.

The next two days in a row, Eden repeated her remarkable feat, but on the third day something changed. Our sweet little girl with what seemed like a natural potty propensity started to protest and go into fits when asked to sit on her new seat.

We've since let up a little on trying to persuade her to go. Kendall recently started reading Eden a book during potty time, and she seems to be making some progress. Like I say, we know there's still a long ways to go yet, but we are very excited by such encouraging signs.

In non-potty-related news, Eden is really starting to develop in both speaking and comprehending language. It's remarkable how many things she knows. She's got Mommy, Daddy, and Henry down pat. Her favorite word seems to be "baby." Every time she sees a baby on TV, in a book, at daycare, or anywhere, she quickly points and says "baby," clear as day. Her second favorite word may be "doggy," which is basically the same as "daddy," simply pronounced "da-da."

She's also fond of "uh-oh" and says it every time she drops anything, such as food from her high-chair. Kendall has tried telling her that it's not really an "uh-oh" when you do it on purpose, but we're working on that. She's also fond of waving and saying "bye-bye."

When it comes to understanding what you're saying to her, her mental catalog seems to grow exponentially by the day. Eden can correctly point to a number of body parts - head, hair, mouth, teeth, ears, nose, eyes, hand, elbow, toes, belly. Many times, particularly if you ask her where her nose is, she not only wants to point to hers, but she'll also run over to Mommy and Daddy to give them both a good schnoz squeeze.

Perhaps one of the funniest things she started doing is the chicken dance. I need to get some video up, but it's absolutely hilarious.

OK, so I could go on and on, but this post is getting quite long already. I hope to have pictures and the report from Easter up by next week.

That's the news for now. We'll keep you posted.